I love visiting teaching, the program itself and it's underpinnings in faith and charity, the sisters I visit, those who visit me, and the spirit that is often felt when we care for each other and lift burdens. But, and I shouldn't be surprised, (it's the Lord's work after all!) by working to lift my sisters, I, too, am uplifted. Such a beautiful thing.
I wanted to write about two sisters whom I respect and admire. One, I visit teach; the other, I don't, but I got to know her through Relief Society and its teaching of "charity never faileth." The first is a sister I visit teach.
Laurel
I have been Laurel's visiting teacher for a few years. I hope I am forever. I never, ever fail to come away from a visit with her without feeling the spirit burn in my heart and a greater love for her and the Lord. Laurel makes me a better person.
I am her ride to church once or twice a month, and I look forward to those Sundays. She's about my age and her faith burns brightly. No matter what the topic, she always sees the Lord's hand, sometimes in a way that I had not considered. She smiles, she is cheerful, and she never, ever criticizes anyone or anything.
All the more remarkable when you discover she has a host of challenges. She had a brain injury some years ago and so she is very unsteady on her feet. Due to the injury, her speech is slow and halting at times, and you must speak slowly to her and use short sentences so she can understand you. Her husband left her to fend for herself years ago, and while she has adult children, none live close by to help.
Stimulation from light, sound, and motion causes her great distress and anxiety. She wears dark glasses and headphones to cut down on them. Due to a type of blood cancer, she lost all her hair and spent two years in the hospital, mostly in isolation.
But Laurel never complains. And, she comes to church EVERY SINGLE WEEK. Her home teachers and the bishop have arranged for a quiet, private room for her to sit in during Sacrament meeting. The sound is piped in, the lights are turned off, and a "Please do not disturb" sign is posted on the door. Laurel arrives early and leaves before the closing prayer to avoid the commotion and stimulation when the meeting dismisses.
Pretty amazing, hm? But there's more to this than most people know. Because of her injury, she really cannot follow the talks. Her brain cannot process the information quickly enough. Nor can she sing the hymns - she can't process the words fast enough to sing along.
This means that Laurel comes to church every Sunday to sit alone in a dark room, listening to words she cannot understand, songs she cannot sing, and without any company for over an hour.
That is faith. That is dedication. That is loving the Lord.
As I sat with the congregation during Sacrament meeting today, I wondered if anyone ever took Laurel the Sacrament. After all, most ward members don't know who she is, and since she arrives and leaves early, her interaction with anyone is zero. Do those passing the Sacrament even know she is there in that room? I decided I would ask her, and if she did not get the Sacrament, I would take steps to ensure she got it every week.
So I asked Laurel in the car as we drove home to her assisted living facility. She smiled and then was quiet for a bit. Then the words came. Slowly, but "brightly", if that makes sense. (Maybe it was the spirit that made those words seem to shine.)
"I have been in this ward since 2003. Only once has someone forgotten."
And she turned and smiled at me.
"Thank you for thinking about me."
I am going to email the Bishop and the Young Men's president and thank them on Laurel's behalf. There was such a deep meaning behind her words. It obviously meant so much to her to receive that Sacrament every week.
A woman who sits alone in a meeting she cannot understand. Every week. For an hour.
That is faith. That is love.
THAT is a great lady.