Former Student Garrett Grossman's Bar Mitzvah was December 1. He
stopped by my classroom in March this spring and asked me to save the date so that I could be there.
I did, and it was a beautiful ceremony (complete with a Torah that had been saved from the Nazis during World War II and loaned to the temple!)
I bought a leather bound
Great Expectations for him as a gift, and included the letter below.
December 20, 2018
Dear Garrett,
Finally! Your gift is here! I hope you find it worth the wait.
When you asked me to save the date for your Bar Mitzvah last March, I knew that I wanted to give you a meaningful gift, and of course my mind went to classic books. There are many reasons as to why I think a classic book would be the perfect Bar Mitzvah gift, some of which I am sure you already know and have learned as an experienced classic reader yourself, and others that will reveal themselves to you as you go through life and acquire not only knowledge, but wisdom as well.
I wanted to choose a very special classic for you, one that would underscore the meaningful step you are taking as a Bar Mitzvah, and another that would have some parallels to where you are in your life in general, and what awaits you as you grow and mature into adulthood. I could not think of a better book to meet those two caveats than Charles Dickens’ Great Expectations.
First, the title. It is applicable to you both as a young man and as someone becoming a Bar Mitzvah. There is so much in life ahead of you! Exciting and challenging things, decisions to be made, places to go (that makes me think of Dr. Seuss, another author of classics!), people to meet and affect, service to render, and more. Some of the expectations will be asked of you by others; some (and most important) you will ask of yourself. Great expectations lie ahead of you, Garrett.
Then there is the story itself. No doubt about it, Dickens’ books can be real wade-throughs! But they are worth the time it takes to understand them. (I included a second book to help guide you through it.)
Great Expectations is the story of an orphan named Pip who, through some luck, has wonderful opportunities and then loses them, and how he comes to terms with the events that bring all this to come to pass in his life. He learns what brings true happiness during his journey, and to see people for who they really are and to not judge them from the outer appearance but rather by what is inside.
You, like Pip, have many opportunities in front of you. You, too, will learn to come to terms with the joys and challenges that life brings you, and to figure out how to negotiate the path to becoming the person you want to be.
And this is where the Bar Mitzvah fit in when I chose this book for you. The very fact that you wanted to make such a commitment to God, to serve in your faith, and to be the kind of person a Bar Mitzvah should be, spoke well of your own “great expectations” of being a moral, caring, kind, and honorable man. With your Bar Mitzvah, you have started down the path of becoming such a person.
Don’t worry if you don’t completely follow the story the first time you read it, and please don’t give up on it! Come back to it later, and the more life experience you have had through serving, learning, and gaining not only knowledge but wisdom, too, the more sense this book will make to you. Parts may jump out at you as you see parallels in your own life, or in the lives of others. Truly great books become even better the more we read them because we see and understand more in their pages due to our own life experiences as time passes.
Garrett, it was an honor to be invited to such an important event in your life. I, too, have “great expectations” for you, and mine are based on the terrific young man who was in my class for two years. I thought then that you would grow up and do something wonderful, and seeing you take the steps to become a Bar Mitzvah affirmed that for me.
One final note: the expectations in the book were Pip’s own, not so much others’ expectations for him. Consider your own, personal, “great expectations” and then work to make them happen. Life is ahead of you, and that is a wonderful thing.
I have no doubt that you will do many great things.
All my best,
Love,
Mrs. Isenbarger